When it comes to dating, who faces more challenges: single moms or single dads? Articles on single parenting abound and entire blogs and forums are dedicated to discussions on dating with children. How many of these are geared specifically toward men, however?
Do Single Dads Find It Harder To Date?
At first glance, this may seem like a non-issue. It is easy to believe that single parent dating topics apply equally to men as well as to women. Many single fathers disagree with this assumption and some feel as though their unique issues are rarely addressed, though. Particularly, those issues pertaining to single dads who have full custody of their children.
Dating Can Be Tough For Everyone
Let's be clear, dating isn't always the easiest activity in the world. Meeting new people, finding common ground and even eliminating prospects all require a unique set of approaches. Balancing one's dating life with parenting can also be challenging. From finding the time to date amidst parenting duties to determining when to let a date meet a child for the first time to ensuring that a child feels safe and secure with a parent's new relationship— dating as a single parent can be tough, period. For more insight on single parent dating topics, just visit the forums at www.singleparentmatch.com and take a look for yourself.
Single Moms Vs. Single Dads
While there are some men who do not want to date a woman with children, there are plenty of men who are willing to do so— especially those dating women in their 30s and beyond. The assumption here, of course, is that the older a single woman is, the more likely it is that she has children from a previous relationship. Men dating in this age group come to expect this whether or not they, themselves, have children.
Single dads, on the other hand, especially those with full custody of their children, often share experiences of being shunned by women because of their parenting status. Without thorough research it is hard to know just how many dads experience this sort of backlash, but just from talking to single fathers and surveying forums and blogs where the subject is discussed, it appears to be a pretty common occurrence. Having also heard a number of single women— including those with children of their own— say that they do not want a man who has children, it is not hard to believe that single fathers may find themselves on the short end of the stick when it comes to dating. But why is this?
Unique Single Dad Dating Issues
Excuses for eliminating single dads as dating prospects range from a woman wanting to be the first to bear a man's children to not wanting to deal with the dreaded 'baby mama drama' (read: problems with his children's mother). Informally, some women even share that they do not want a man's attention split between them and children. Even for men who do not have primary custody of their children, there is concern that they may someday be required to take custody or that the amount that they currently pay in child support will take away from a woman's household should their dating relationship turn into a more long-term or permanent relationship. Women who hesitate (or flat-out refuse) to date men with children do so for reasons that may seem shallow to some, but quite valid to others.
What's a Single Dad To Do?
So, how can single dads best avoid the stigmas and resistance that some women hold against dating them? Well, being as upfront as possible about their parenting status helps. From the get go, men should be forthcoming about the fact that they have children whether those children live with them or not. Single dads may also increase their odds of finding women who are open to dating them by joining social sites like www.singleparentmatch.com which cater to their unique situations. Lastly, single dads should be as aware as possible of the dating issues often ascribed to them so as not to be caught off guard and to learn how to quickly and gallantly move on from women who are opposed to dating them. For the safety and well-being of sons and daughters everywhere, it is never a good idea to try to change someone's mind about being around a man's children once they have expressed a desire to avoid them.
No one can yet confidently prove that all single dads have it worse than single moms when it comes to dating. If even a few experience some of the challenges detailed above, however, that's enough to take notice of the double-standard that is sometimes applied. Single dads would do well to be vocal about this topic in an effort to help others overcome these obstacles.
What do you think? Do women tend to discriminate against single dads? How can men overcome this problem?